Signs He’s Not in Love
Wendee Mason

*  He calls her by the wrong name.

*  He doesn’t visit her at her work or want to see what she does.

*  He cancels the holiday plans he had made with her.

*  He never says, “I love you.”

*  When she says, “I love you,” there is silence or he says, “Thank you.”

*  He doesn’t reveal how he feels about her.

*  He doesn’t talk about their future together.

*  Women call him on his cell phone for dates.

*  He leaves very early in the morning after spending the night.

*  He doesn’t stay for breakfast.

*  His erections are not reliable.

*  He rarely plans dates with her in advance.

*  He doesn’t mention weekend plans the week before.

*  He cancels plans made in advance.

*  He does not drive in traffic to see her.

*  He wants to see her less than she wants to see him.

*  After a disagreement, he walks away and doesn’t want to complete the discussion.

*  He needs his weekend nights to himself to be with his friends.

*  He doesn’t spend equal time at her house.

*  He doesn’t leave anything at her house except a toothbrush.

*  He won’t discuss their relationship.

*  He won’t give her a house key.

*  He tells her to always call before she comes over.

*  He gets angry when she talks about her insecurities about their relationship.

*  He calls sporadically, but doesn’t ask her out when he does call.

*  After a weekend trip together he pulls back and doesn’t call for days.

*  When she asks about how he feels about her he says, “I’m not there yet.”

*  He says, “I have feelings but I’m not ready to reveal them.”

*  He says, “I feel no fire.”

*  He says, “I can’t go any faster than am now.”

*  He introduces her as his “friend” or  “date”, not his girlfriend.

*  He doesn’t introduce her or include her when his family comes to town.

*  He talks about other women who want him.

*  She leaves him for a minute at a social event and women surround him.

*  He wanders off by himself when at social events and it’s hard to find him.

*  He doesn’t dance with her with passion.

*  He doesn’t say loving things when making love.

*  He doesn’t share important details about his past.

*  He doesn’t ask her about her past.

*  Interest in her plans for the future is minimal.

*  She has to work her schedule around his schedule in order to see him.

*  He doesn’t mention her to his friends except if they ask.

*  He abruptly ends all conversations quickly with, “I got to go.”

*  He is always the one to leave or end the conversation.

*  He agrees to have studio pictures taken together, but doesn’t buy any of them.

*  He doesn’t buy her any gifts or flowers.

*  When he gives her a card, he just signs his name.

*  He tells her “We’re just dating, we don’t have a relationship.”

*  He asks, “Why are you with me?”

*  He walks in front of her.

*  He doesn’t wait for her (climbing the stairs, in the mall, walking on the street.)

*  He doesn’t check his messages to find out if she has called him.

*  He doesn’t return her phone calls promptly.

*  He tells her he wants to slow down and see her less often.

*  He’s not interested in meeting her family.

*  He doesn’t spend the night often.

*  He won’t discuss the topics of commitment and trust.

*  When spending the night, he “accidentally” greets her roommates naked.

*  He’s interested in her physically, but not emotionally.

*  After having a drink, he leaves her at a bar and says, “Have a good time, I’ll pick you up later.”

*  He won’t call often.

*  He cancels his date with her saying something has come up.

*  He uses an indifferent tone of voice.

*  He is more interested in the event than in her company.

*  He does not disclose the activities he does when he’s not with her.

*  He is not prepared for the date with her. Instead, he wings it.

*  Although he promises to return her calls, he does not.

*  He doesn’t call when he says he will call.

*  He discloses hurtful stories because he doesn’t care about her feelings or the outcome.

*  He does not take his time in bed with her.

*  He watches TV while making love to her.

*  He calls late at night and asks to come over for sex.

*  He leaves right after sex.

*  Tries to go to bed with her right away.

*  He has no interest in sex.

*  He works late instead of taking her out.

*  He avoids setting another date at the end of the current date.

*  He doesn’t offer to pay for the date and is reluctant to spend money on her.

*  He has no enthusiasm when with her.

*  He looks at other women when on a date.

*  He doesn’t look at her while on their date.

*  He doesn’t compliment her on her outfit, hair or appearance.

*  He doesn’t dress up for her.

*  Always busy when she calls.

*  Spend as little time as possible with her.

*  He does not look into her eyes while speaking.

*  He does not care about what she is doing daily.

*  Your partner asks what you like, you tell them, and then they never do it!

*  He says he is not in love.

*  He has no interest in her daily activities.

*  Shows no consideration for her time by making her wait when picking her up.

*  He honks for her in the driveway to pick her up.

*  He drops her off in the driveway after the date.

*  He dates other women while dating her.

*  He doesn’t tell her he is dating other women.

*  She finds other women’s phone numbers on his dresser.

*  He claims he is at work all the time.

*  He lies about how he spends his time away from her.

*  The feeling in her stomach and the pain in her heart say he’s going to leave her.

*  He leaves her.