Signs She’s Not in Love
Wendee Mason

She avoids eye contact with him.

  She gives a lot of negative criticism.

  She nags him.

  She embarrasses him in front of others.

  She is not readily available for dating.

  She will not invite him to her home.

  She will not buy him clothes.

  She will not cook for him.

  She does not answer his phone calls.

  She won’t make plans in advance, hoping for a better offer.

  He gives her a house key and she does not reciprocate.

  She yells at him when he drops by unannounced.

  At social events, she socializes apart from him.

  She flirts with others.

  Has her eye on other men while on a date with him.

  She claims she was not home when he called, even though she was.

  There is lack of conversation on her part when on a date.

  She calls only when she needs something or when she wants a favor.

  She rationalizes why she treats him badly to her friends.

  She talks poorly of him to her friends and family.

  She shows lack of affection while with him.

  She uses the excuse of working late to avoid being with him.

  She says, “Let’s just be friends.”

  Wants to do things with a group of people instead of one-on-one with him.

  She doesn’t call him to chat.

  She is not considerate of his time or money.

  She says, “I love you”, but her actions don’t back up her words.

  She makes excuses to spend less and less time with him.

  She is indifferent to what the man does because she doesn’t care.

  She doesn’t write cards or messages.

  She doesn’t moan in bed anymore.

  She doesn’t get wet.

  She doesn’t have orgasms.

  She fakes orgasms.

  She doesn’t move in bed.

  She doesn’t look at him while having sex.

  She says, “Just hurry up and come”.

  She has this dead look while making love.

  When she fantasizes about other men during lovemaking.

  She tells him about whom she was fantasizing.

  Her glow is gone.

  She falls asleep during sex.

  She watches her favorite show during sex.

  She’s answers the phone while having sex.

  She has no desire for sex.

  She no longer will give oral sex.

  She will not kiss him passionately.

  Gives him quick hugs instead of long body hugs.

  She tells him about good her life could have been if she had dated the other man.

  Doesn’t wear sexy underwear, she wears grandma underwear instead.

  She doesn’t call back or slow to call back.

  She won’t go to his house.

  She won’t share her passions with him.

  She won’t spend money on him.

  She doesn’t let him meet her family or children.

  She won’t take him to meet her friends.

  She doesn’t plan romantic outings.

  She doesn’t chip in for dates.

  She doesn’t pack picnic lunches.

  She doesn’t do extra things that make him feel special.

  She doesn’t leave messages on his voice mail.

  She does not email him back.

  She has lack of respect for him.

  She yells at him.

  She uses a condescending tone of voice.

  She hits him.

  She accidentally hits him in the balls.

  She accidentally scratches him.

  She throws things across the room.

  She yells profanities.

  She turns down dates with him.

  She cancels dates.

  She laughs at him behind his back.

  She doesn’t read the cards he sends.

  She doesn’t say thank you for the nice things he does.

  She would rather be alone than be with him.

  She doesn’t think about him when they are apart.

  She’d rather be with the girls.

  She’d rather be with her dogs.

  She’d rather be alone.

  She doesn’t tell anyone she’s dating him.

  She forgets his name.

  She calls him by the wrong name.

  She makes vacation plans without him.

  She sees no reason to tell him she’s moving.

  She goes to Club Med without him.

  She kisses other men she barely knows.

  She breaks dates with him to be with another man.

  She dates multiple men without disclosing it.

  She seems too close to her girl friend.

  Her radiant smile leaves her face in his presence.

  She doesn’t talk about her feelings for him.

  She doesn’t listen to him.

  She doesn’t get excited to see him.

  She does not make future plans with him.

  She talks about her future, not their future.

  She doesn’t touch him anywhere.

  She forgets to take a shower before their date.

  She doesn’t comb her hair.

  She no longer wears makeup.

  She gains weight.

  She eats lots of chocolate.

  She used to want a family with him, now changes her mind.

  She is no longer spontaneous.

  She never thinks he has a good idea.

  She doesn’t care about his needs.

  She doesn’t want to hold his hand in public.

  She is never giddy around him.

  She no longer smiles.

  She forgets his birthday.

  She forgets how old he is.

  She doesn’t get him a holiday gift.

  She is “out of town” on Valentines Day.

  She gets him a gift that she can use.

  She always has PMS when he is around.

  She doesn’t invite him to weddings and company parties.

  She changes her phone number, or email and doesn’t tell him the new number.

  She tries to make him leave her by being bitchy.

  She leaves him.